Emotional is the hindrance to success
I am not a staunch opposition supporter or a loyal government supporter, but I do notice our PM is not a "lame duck" as many had labelled him or "stupid". According to PKR - Raja Petra Kamaruddin, from the early days when he knew DSAB, he is actually a master politician. One exceptional quality that our PM has is he is not emotional, he rarely perform action that is regarded by many as political stunt. He almost didnt take any action in public when one of his cabinet ministers did something not popular, or being heavily criticised by mass media. He didnt quarrel with others in public, he seldom retaliate in public when others attacked him. The more he kept his quiet, the more the other party looks like an "idiot" or a child. This applies of course to Anwar, Dr M and the rest.
Emotional is the hindrance to ones success, like it or not, this is the truth. When one becomes emotional, he will become irrational at the first place, then he will utter the wrong words or take the wrong action that appears in public perception as wrong. No matter how right you are at the initial stage, when you became emotional, slowly you are perceived as wrong. This happened not only in politics, but in your work place as well.
See the Sabah MP Bung Mokhtar, he flashed the wrong sign, I didnt even know why he needs to do that at the first place, or I am not even interested to find out why. Maybe someone criticised his mother? But all I remembered today is he is wrong, because he flashed the wrong sign. No matter what he explained from now to next election, he is still perceived in public as not gentleman.
See Dr M, he quits UMNO to fight for Ketuanan Melayu, his message didnt get through across the board and he is frustrated, his intention is noble and maybe what he fights for is real. But because he quits UMNO and at his position as former premier of Malaysia, it is perceived as immatured. No matter what happened in UMNO in the end, no one will remember how noble his action is, he might be perceived as someone not loyal to the party and trying to create chaos than harmony.
See Mr Anwar, the Malaysians bread and butter issues he fought for is real although his real intention is unknown. Once he got slapped with sodomy charges, he immediately retaliate through press conference, foreign ambassadors, threaten to reveal secrets but in the end he is perceived by the majority of the public as someone neglecting national agenda and only care about being Prime Minister of the country. People are questioning his ambition more than the agenda his party is fighting for.
I still remembered at work, I have supporting partner from another company for a critical project,who performed really badly and not discipline. This guy will be untraceable when I needed him most, always lost his handphone, handphone always no signal and very slow in response and getting things done. I tried to escalate and complain to his and my manager, but because I was too emotional, I slapped so many charges on him that all of them look sur-real. I was so emotional that people was wondering whether what I was saying can be trusted or just pure made up stories. So in the end it doesnt work and I was asked by my manager to try to use soft skill to work with this guy. So I was at losing end in the end.
So to everyone, emotional is the hindrance to ones success, therefore we must be patient and let blood flows into our brain when it is going up in smoke. This applies to all human relationship from with your friends, family, spouse, to work, even more critical when come to gaining public support.
If there is one thing to learn from our PM, DSAB, is his wise side of not being emotional and get dragged into a free for all public spat because it will be perceived as immatured.
He did not punish the public openly when they go for rally or demonstrations. He allows public to have gathering inside stadium and allows them to scream as loud as they want. He didnot retaliate in public when people attacked him. But what he did is to ask police to carry out road blocks when he feels "national security is threatened". This will create inconvenience but not pain for all, as a reminder of how difficult life could be if we continue to have demonstration.
So when you are in a frustrating situation, try not to be emotional. But I do admit it is easier to say than to do it, as some people in nature are the emotional type.
Btw, I did resolve my work problem. I didn’t get angry anymore while I let others to work with him. After several months, I just sent in the same email but only in one sentence saying I am not satisfied with his work. This time, his manager just replied that he got the same feedback from everyone else and mentioned he will take action. Within a week, he was replaced with another person, and the new guy still work with me quite well until today.
Emotional doesnt solve problem, definitely a hindrance to ones success, in love, in family, in work and especially in politics.
